The Book: Project Happily Ever After
The Author: Alisa Bowman
The Inside Scoop: The book was written in an honest voice–so honest, that at times I would cringe thinking, “Wow, would I be able to have that in writing…forever?” See, Alisa allows her readers into her life, mind and marriage. We can all sit around and wish for a “happy ever after” but it just doesn’t happen…not without work. And personally, I didn’t believe in a “happily ever after” — not when another human is involved. A goldfish maybe, a puppy, a parrot, but not when you’re sharing your life, hopes and living space with another person who actually speaks: someone left the toothpaste cap off, they might have used up all your moisturizer and left your face dry and unprotected, or in Alisa’s case–left you all alone to tend to your newborn child while he went out to a party. I do believe in working together to make things work…and if you throw in some hot sex–you got it made.
The Lessons: Once the marriage got so bad, that Alisa’s relief was writing a fiction novel where a desperate housewife plans her husband’s death and funeral. Yeah. Juicy right? But just as she’s getting into her new project: Death to Husband, she meets with a friend who tells her, “Try everything, once you have, then you can divorce him.” I know how she felt, it’s like when I told a friend I was trying to loose weight and they said, “Well, have you tried not eating so much?” She and I both left with defeat in our hearts. Alisa wanted to hear, “Yeah, leave him, he’s a jerk.” And I wanted to hear, “Oh, here’s some cash–so get liposuction.”
A few days later, Alisa started a new project: “Project Happily Ever After” reading several self-help books and trying various experiments involving her husband. The Hug Experiment was fascinating–when participating in a hug, who initiates it and who releases first? And what does that mean? That experiment alone, made the book invaluable to me because my own boyfriend says I suck at hugs and when he meets people and they hug him, he’ll whisper in my ear, “Now, she knows how to give a hug.” Project Happily Ever After breaks down all the techniques and tips Alisa tried in order to repair her marriage; it was like a self-help cheat sheet.
The Outcome: Alisa discusses her dating life prior to getting married and takes her readers along on her dating experience with Mark, her husband. We’re present when they first meet, the first date, the birth of their child and yes, while Alisa plans his eulogy and funeral; but we also have front row seats at the birth of Project Happily Ever After and it’s execution. The book should be broken up into sections, Singles & Married People because Alisa inserts amazing dating tips that she now realizes (in hind sight) and relates them to now being married for example; when dating a guy who says he doesn’t want children, believe him–he doesn’t want children. The book is a self-help book because it takes you step by step on her journey of saving her marriage, Mark finding her g-spot and the both of them being able to connect on such a great level. Alisa does believe in divorce–only if you can honestly say you have tried everything (she does mention that your partner has to be a willing participant otherwise, what’s the point?).
My Feedback: Buy and read a copy of Project Happily Ever After. (that link will take you there) If you’re single, you’re going to learn remarkable dating tips. If your marriage is on the rocks, you’re going to read about love lessons and experiments to turn things around and nd even if your relationship is doing well, you’ll get an education that’ll lead you to Happily Ever After–even if you don’t believe it exists at first.